Book Review: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie | GXBooks

 GXBook Review:  How to Win Friends and Influence People  by  Dale Carnegie

Communication skill can open up many opportunities in your life, How? If you have this skill, you can connect with people quickly and make them close to you. As the title says, how to win friends and influence people, all the answers and the methods you will find in this book. If you really really want to connect with people and make them friends. This book is a must-read book for you. 

Dale Carnegie's recommendation has stayed consistent and appropriate over the years, which is as it should be. It's straightforward, and his procedures bode well. In case you're in any way similar to me, you'll be kicking yourself when you perceive how you could have dealt with circumstances unexpectedly. I'm being changed from a socially cumbersome, meek, and cautious individual to somebody that appears to be gathered and sure.

In case you're experiencing difficulties throughout everyday life and can't make sense of what you're fouling up, this is an excellent spot to begin. Good luck on your journey!


1. How to handle people:-

  • Never criticize them.
  • Give them an honest and sincere appreciation.
  • Arouse in them in an eager want.

2. Six ways to make people admire you:-

  • Become genuinely interested in them.
  • Give them a smile.
  • Remember their name and call them by name.
  • Be a listener and encourage them to talk about them.
  • Talk about their interests.
  • Make them feel important in a genuine way.

3. Win people to your way of thinking:

  • win an argument by avoiding it.
  • Never judge them.
  • Admit your mistakes.
  • Be friendly.
  • Get the "yes, yes" immediately.
  • Let them talk to do a great deal. 
  • Try to see things from their perspective.
  • Be sympathetic to their ideas and desires.
  • Appeal to the nobler motives.
  • Sensationalize your thoughts.
  • Toss down a test.

4. Be a Pioneer: How to change Individuals Without Giving Offense

  • Start with acclaim and sincere appreciation.
  • Tell people's mistakes indirectly.
  • Discussion about your own mistakes before criticizing them.
  • Pose inquiries instead of giving the order.
  • Let them save their face.
  • Appreciation of the smallest improvement and praise each advance. 
  • Give them an excellent reputation to satisfy.
  • Use support. Cause the deficiency appears to be anything but difficult to address.
  • Fulfill them about doing the thing you recommend.

On dealing individuals 

When dealing with individuals, let us recall that we are not dealing with animals of rationale. We are dealing with animals of feeling, animals bristling with biases, and persuaded by pride and vanity.

On impact 

The just path on earth to impact others is to discuss what they need and tell them the best way to get it.

On the mystery of accomplishment 

On the off chance that there is anyone mystery of achievement, it lies in the capacity to get the other individual's perspective and see things from that individual's point just as from your own.

Try not to Criticize, Condemn or Complain 

Carnegie expresses, "Any bonehead can scrutinize, censure or gripe and most numb-skulls do." He proceeds to state that it takes character and restraint to be pardoned, this control will deliver significant profits in your associations with individuals.

 Be Generous With Praise 

Carnegie utilizes Schwab, for instance, all through the book, as somebody who epitomizes the entirety of the precepts Carnegie lectures.

Recall Their Name 

Recalling people's names when you meet them is inconvenient. You coolly meet many individuals, so it's difficult, however on the off chance that you can prepare yourself to recollect individuals' names, it causes them to feel exceptional and significant.

Be Genuinely Interested In Other People 

Recalling an individual's name, asking them inquiries that urge them to discuss themselves, so you find their inclinations and interests are what causes individuals to trust you like them, so they love this like you. Carnegie states, You make more companions in two months by getting genuinely keen on others than you can in two years by attempting to get others inspired by you. If you separate it, you ought to listen 75% and just talk 25% of the time.

Know The Value Of Charm 

One thing individuals don't talk about much in the pursuit of the employment industry is that such a large amount of getting an open door isn't about ability, where you set off for college or who you know; it is individuals loving you. Become somebody individuals need to converse with; be really keen on others since it will improve your life and open such a large number of a more significant number of entryways than you at any point thought conceivable.

Rush To Acknowledge Your Own Mistakes 

Nothing will make individuals not so much cautious but rather more pleasant than you being modest and sensible enough to concede your own mix-ups. Nothing will help end pressure or a contradiction over a quick affirmation and statement of regret on your part.

Try not to Attempt To "Win" An Argument 

The most ideal approach to win any contention, Carnegie composes, is to stay away from it. Even on the off chance that you totally destroy somebody's dispute with target realities, you won't be any nearer to agreeing than if you made specific contentions. Carnegie referred to a well-known adage: "A man persuaded without wanting to/Is of a similar supposition still."

Start On Common Ground 

If you have a conflict with somebody, you start on a shared view and facilitate your way into the troublesome subjects. If you start on the polarizing ground, you'll always be unable to recuperate and may lose ground with issues on which you concur.

Let other Belief Your Conclusion Is Their Own

Individuals can not be compelled to think anything, and influential individuals comprehend the intensity of proposal over interest. Figure out how to plant the seed, and as opposed to telling individuals they're off-base, locate the shared view and convince them that what they truly need is your ideal result (clearly without disclosing to them that is the situation).

Cause People To feel Important 

Grinning, knowing individuals' names, adulating individuals, putting forth an attempt to comprehend their inclinations, and visit about them cause individuals to contact significant. That is the hidden purpose of the entirety of the above standards. On the off chance that you cause individuals to feel substantial, how you stroll through the world will be an exponentially, increasingly enjoyable, and unimaginable experience.